It’s great to go on dates. Like all great things, though, there can still be a downside for those who refuse to tread carefully. There are certain women that you have to AVOIDdating. If you don’t heartbreak will surely follow. Certain personality types might end up really grating on your nerves no matter how promising you thought the future could be. Learn how to spot potential red flags in budding relationships and you’ll fare better than men who have ignored the skill. Life is too short to spend with people who really get on our nerves or who are potentially dangerous to our overall well-being!
No matter what else a relationship needs the elements of good communication and trust are necessary to take things to the next level. With certain personality types achieving a high level of either is nearly impossible. That’s why the best way to avoid hurt later on with this type of woman is to identify her correctly so she can be avoided in the first place.
Let’s examine the types of women to avoid dating in detail.
The ‘Put A Ring On It’ Chick
This type of woman has been deeply influenced by Beyonce’s ‘Single Ladies.’ Her attitude is that you ‘should put a ring on it’ shortly after meeting. She would give anything to get married. The trouble is that her single-mindedness on the issue has caused a massive imbalance in her life. Marriage is all she thinks and talks about. This type of woman is NO FUN to date.
Without having gotten to know her the demands for marriage are just not cool. Unless you’re willing to take her to the altar right away you’re wasting your time with this type.
The quicker you can figure out that marriage is not only central to this woman but is her number one priority you can feel free to act honestly. If you’re just ‘out for fun‘ then you should avoid going in deeper with someone who is pushing for the ultimate commitment. If you’re thinking ‘casual encounter‘ and she’s thinking ‘lifetime commitment‘ the two of you are starting from very diverse viewpoints.
The ‘I Control’ You Freak
Control freaks are scary people. Unless you’re willing to put your life in someone else’s hands you’ll want to avoid controlling women. If you don’t they’ll be choosing what you wear, how you act, and who you hang out with.
If you give her an inch a controlling women will try to take a mile! Lucky for you a controlling women will try an exercise her power quickly in a relationship. If you notice these traits you’ll have time to bail out before things get too serious. Dating a control freak cannot work out well. Once you determine you’re dealing with this type of women you need to move on.
If you’re a strong man who isn’t looking for another mother than avoid overly controlling women at all costs. They will only bring you heartache as they methodically take over your life.
The Material Girl
The material girl loves spending money. She’s ‘high-maintenance‘ and is proud of the fact. If you hook up with this chick you’ll be lavishing lots of cash on her. Unless you’re really loaded this arrangement is going to get old fast.
The material girl can’t focus on anything other than material things. If this is your focus too then great. But if you have other interests hanging out with a shallow woman like this could get boring fast. If you discover a material girl is in your midst you may want to continue your search.
The biggest mistake you could ever make is letting a greedy girl know you’re into her. If she figures that out you’ll be putty in her hands.
Miss Insecurity
You know the type. This type of woman calls her man 10 times each day just because she ‘misses the sound of his voice.’ She needs constant reassurance that she’s ‘okay.’ At first building up an insecure woman might be soothing to your male ego. As time wears on it will get very, very old.
Core insecurity issues indicate something is wrong. You’re looking to go on dates and have some fun. You aren’t suddenly in the market to become a counselor! Don’t forget that relationships should make both parties feel better about themselves. One party always propping up the other’s emotions is a burden. Move on if you realize you’re dealing with ‘Miss Insecurity.’
The Really Angry Chick
This type of woman has been wronged by ‘men‘ and is mad at ‘men.’ This can’t be good for you because you’re a man too!
You might spend a lot of time trying to lessen her anger. You can show her what a great guy you are and that should be proof that all men are not evil swine. This sounds like a great idea and one that appeals to the idea of a ‘White Knight‘ or ‘SuperMan.’ Are you really those things? Are you willing to be a SuperMan who spends all of his time convincing one woman that men are not ‘pigs’ or ‘dogs?’
Most men are not going to be willing to do this. Follow their lead and move on to greener pastures. ‘Man-haters‘ have core issues that they should be working on before entering the dating pool. A woman like this cannot possibly expect a man to help her work through her issues.
The Romance Junkie
A romance junkie can’t get enough of the fairy tale version of romantic love. She eats up stories about characters who don’t exist. The problem with dating a women of this type is that she’s set up unrealistic expectations that almost no one could meet. When you live in a fantasy world real life has a hard time competing.
As you probably already know, Hollywood ideas about romance are fantastical bull-crap. This isn’t to say that romance is bad or something to be avoided. Romance can be great. However, romance will rarely follow the ‘story arc‘ that a romance junkie thinks it will. Why? Real life has a way of rearing its ugly head. This is true even in relationships. Romance and real world pressures will have to be balanced. If your girl thinks that life is like a ‘Rom-Com‘ then she’ll be sorely disappointed with the mundane details of regular life.
The Militant Feminist
Certainly the women’s rights movements is one of the most important things to happen in the last hundred years. Women who take their rights seriously are to be admire. However when a woman goes ‘hogwild‘ on the idea and becomes a militant she’s probably no longer fun to date!
To be fair any cause that’s central might end up being a problem. Unless you really passionately share the same concerns as she does you will probably find yourself bored with constant mentions of the issue. If she’s really a radical feminist you’re facing an uphill battle. She has already adopted an ‘us versus them‘ attitude and you are one of them after all! With this type of women you’ll find yourself fighting an un-winnable ‘battle of the sexes.’ Be warned that you’ll never come out on top!
The Gold Digger
If you’re even a moderately successful gentleman you’ll need to watch out for gold diggers. The Gold Digger is similar to the Material Girl only she’s more blatant in her aims and actions. She’s looking out for herself and will try and get whatever she can from you.
Guys always think they can outfox a gold digger. Most of them don’t stand a chance. Even though her actions may seem obvious to other people you will probably be too besotted by her appearance to notice. A gold digger uses the money she gets from guys to invest in her appearance. She always has the best tan, best clothes, and best hair. Since she looks so awesome guys easily fall victim to her spell. Once a gold digger has her meat-hooks in it can become almost impossible to move on.
If you even think for a second you may have been enthralled by a gold digger you better set up some tests to find out if she’s one or not. Act fast and don’t delay. Every second you hang in there with a gold digger will end up causing you big money. You can’t possible win long-term either.
Dating Is A Process Of Selection
Avoiding these eight types women will start you on a road to massive dating success. Dating is all about selection. Choosing who to date and who not to date is the key towards eventual romantic success. If you spend too much time with the wrong people you end up jaded.
We’ve all met that person who is thoroughly disgusted by the opposite sex. They’ve spent years – even decades – dating the worst example of people they can find. After all their negative experiences they become convinced that all romance is lame. They’re sure they’ll never find the right person. By the time they’ve reached this low point they very well could be right.
When your attitude tells you that thinks can’t work out they probably won’t. If you date so many people that just aren’t right for you that your attitude is now negative you will have a hard time getting out of a relationship rut. For this reason you really have to consider the ‘quality versus quantity‘ aspect of dating.
Yes, you may have to date a relatively large number of people until you find ‘the right one.’ Some people get lucky and find an amazing partner right away. Most people don’t. If you’re in for a long period of dating being able to select the right people becomes paramount.
via Kookl
