So you think you’re fly, huh? You think you’ve got your look, walk and talk down to an art. You’re sure women are going to flock to you when you’re out. But, instead, you get a lot of those awkward interactions where you try to make a joke to a girl and she half laughs before slowly moving away. Or, you just get slapped. So, what are you doing that’s so wrong? Probably one or all of these things.
You’re hitting on everyone
A woman wants to feel special. She wants to feel you hand selected her out of the mass of females at the bar to talk to. She is not going to feel that way if she watches you for just ten minutes and sees you try to pick up on anything with pheromones. It’s fine if you’re on the hunt, but women cannot know that. Be subtle in your approaches. Don’t let one girl who you hit on see you hit on another one. If you can, avoid her even seeing you speaking to other females. Women are on the defense when out, and they look for a reason to write you off. Don’t give them one by being the sleaze of the bar.
You’re making passing comments
Let me ask you something: you know that thing you do when a cute girl passes by, and you whistle at her, say “Hi Gorgeous” or just sort of shout something: how the hell do you expect her to respond to that? Do you honestly think she’s going to flip 180 degrees on her heels and just melt at the fact that you spoke to her? Sorry, spoke at her. Never will a woman respond to a man who makes a passing comment at her. If she did, she’d feel like a dog obeying orders. If you want to talk to a woman, talk to her like a human being by approaching her and starting a conversation.
You approach at random
You should approach, but not randomly. Walking up to a group of females and just saying, “Hey ladies” rarely works. You’ve given them no fodder for conversation. They know nothing about you. It’s awkward. If you want to speak to a woman or a group of women, find a subtle “in.” If you’re sitting next to a group of women make a comment about the ambience in the bar. Ask them what they’re drinking. Start the conversation in a way that doesn’t force them to have to talk to you, if they don’t want to. They’ll appreciate the low pressure.
